Today is Mom's birthday. So I've taken the day off, and I plan on spending it doing things she loved-hanging out with my family, going out to lunch, and shopping.
I know now that when we were growing up, she really did the best she could, and what she thought was right. It took me a long time to forgive her, and to be able to see things from her point of view. Now that I do, I am better able to forgive myself for the parenting mistakes I also made. Just because we made bad decisions doesn't mean we're bad people.
I love you, Mom. Happy birthday.